Hi, my name is Kristin, and I’m single.
When I say I’m single, I mean I’m single.
Actually, sometimes I like to say that I’m the “singlest of the single.” (As if there were such a thing.)
See, I don’t have a boyfriend and I’m not currently dating.
I’m simply single.
And it may surprise you to know,
I’m okay with it.
I was at an event once where a bunch of single, Christian young women were gathered in a room together. The gathering had every intention of being encouraging, and for many of those girls I’m sure it was. But for me? It was a little confusing. Because there seemed to be a cloud of discouragement in the room, a weariness of sorts, and even a twinge of bitterness peppered in at times. I found that I couldn’t quite relate to the depth of heaviness and sadness I felt coming from the room. Because to me, being single wasn’t a burden to be endured for a season until God saw fit to grace me with a husband. I didn’t feel like I was lacking or less than or so full of longing that I couldn’t deal anymore. I didn’t feel incomplete or impatient, even though I did (and still do, for the record) desire to be married.
Not long after, I processed the experience more fully with the Lord. I felt a nudge to start sharing my heart as a single woman who follows Jesus. It felt like I was being led to begin sharing what it looks like for me to be single, diving into heart issues like motivations, focus, and flat-out faith. I felt like I was meant to share the perspective I’d been given and encourage those walking the world of being single, just as I was.
That realization was a few years ago now, and I’ve had a few opportunities to share and speak on being single since then. There have been plenty a conversation in coffee shops, with both single and married friends. (We tend to laugh a lot in those.) There have been fairly impromptu gatherings of single women where I’ve felt led to share an encouraging word. There has even been a speaking engagement or two mixed in there, all from the perspective of being single, if not outright about it.
And now I’m bringing that conversation to these pages. I’ll be sharing my heart, my opinions and experiences, truth from God’s Word, resources I find helpful, and stories that may make you laugh or simply say a heartfelt, “me, too.” My hope in this on-going series is that it will be an encouragement, whether you’re currently struggling with being single or loving every minute of it.
In this space, your heart is welcome and honored. In this space, your feelings are acknowledged and allowed to be fully sat in for a spell. In this space, truth will be shared and hearts will be on sleeves, because the struggle is real for all of us, at one time or another, but we don’t have to shoulder any of it alone.
This is being single.
Let’s walk in it together.